I have found that many people take things personally, that are not personal. This is natural. We all do this much more than we realize. Sometimes it takes a long time to learn that when people hurt us it often isn’t about us, it is about the person hurting us. If someone says something unkind or thoughtless it is hard not to be hurt. But if you really think about it, it often says more about the person who made the comment than it does about you.
This is hardest to do with the people we love, but it is often equally true.