Four simple words can make such a difference when asking your child to do something around the house. For example, I asked my son this morning to put his dishes in the dishwasher after breakfast…he grumbled a little, but he did it. About 15 minutes later while he was already doing something he enjoyed (an even harder sell) I told him I needed his help to clean up some crumbs and put some stuff away in the family room. He happily came to help. Then another 10 minutes later I told him I needed his help again to sweep the front walkway. Again he jumped up and did it cheerfully. The difference? Four words…”I need your help.” I think if you frame requests this way children feel more valued, like they are making a contribution. It worked for me anyway! Tell me what you think! What ways have you found to elicit cooperation from your kids?
